If you’re not IAmCuriousBlue, you can the next paragraph, it will be interesting and generally applicable after that, especially if you see yourself as aligned for (or against) a particular ideological group within the Atheist “community.”
We’ve known each other (distantly) for a while. We’ve argued on the same side in many comment flamewars, and opposing sides in a few. You may believe that I avoid speaking with or to you. If you feel this is deliberate on my part, then you’re right. To explain why, let’s look at an example here:
Some context. There have been hours and hours of words regarding the dust-up over DJ Grothe’s PR and HR mistakes (to put it mildly, especially since he managed to do make both with one poorly-thought-out answer), but my opinions as to why this clusterfuck Internet Fight is completely unnecessary are best summed up in the words expressed by this commenter at the JREF forums, but according to IACB I’ve somehow been taken in by one side in a tribal war of some kind. (here is my previous post with links to many posts about what started this mess).
Let’s unpack that a little. rather than getting behind JREF stepping up and doing what most organizations do, which is affirm that there are already existing policies regarding sexual harassment (when what they really mean is Simple Assault), implement issue tracking so you can tell how well those policies work or if they’re a hindrance (if you’re not tracking them already, which JREF apparently wasn’t), and generally reassuring everyone that the idea of TAM is not to paint targets on certain classes of attendee and presenter, what does the online skeptical community do?
They continue to have the same tribal fights along similar tribal lines that they have been having since whenever (with very few people changing sides), and generally do a great deal to obscure the issues involved and make it all about personalities and cliques. Yes, I’m talking about a good number of bloggers and commenters at FTB and elsewhere. I’m not naming names besides IACB (who this post was inspired by), because making this conflict about individuals and their insecurities is perhaps the biggest reason this isn’t being solved If it IS being solved, it’s happening without anyone knowing about it because of the shitstorm that’s happening (AGAIN).
Seriously, in the words of Scary Dave, “Fuck your team.” I don’t care what team anyone belong to, about the team identity and how just its cause is, and most especially I have absolutely no fucks to give about y’all’s teams “leaders” urgings to fight for (or against) each other, because this obsession with teams and personalities over actual facts has knocked you intellectually and emotionally back into the goddamn third grade, and I will not join you (despite the claims of some that I’m even worse than most of you).
Now that I have your attention, why don’t you try and look at this issue as a rational human being, rather than as part of a team, or as the opponent of one personality or another, or one ideology or another? What do YOU want, and what are YOUR problems or suggestions with the solutions being proffered? Seriously, is the idea that in the larger scheme of things, we are just another group of humans which has a statistically significant number of fuckheads within it such a horrible thing to contemplate? If you are a harasser, then sure, you should be worried.
If not, I would like to direct your attention to the following for consideration:
And truthfully, because sexual harassment is something any gender can do to any other gender, the best sexual harassment policies are gender-neutral. So please, think about it. Isn’t it worth trying to make our community better for us. This isn’t rocket science, and there is no need to reinvent the wheel here. You may not like the above video, but the core is simple: recognize that other people feel differently than you do, and accept that we will need to do just a teeny-tiny bit of work to get along in large numbers. So let’s do this thing.